If you are married and are living together, it is better for both individuals to never allow your matrimonial home become a battlefield. That is, sometimes one might have to decide that in the case of a disagreement, you can 'agree to disagree'. In other words, none of the two has to win or lose the argument.
These behaviours of arguing to win can affect intimacy in such very negative ways, intimacy can be lost somewhere in the park or in the dark. You no longer enjoy each others company as once did, while a few disagreements can be very, very, meaningful and often times cause a marriage to feel that a divorce is the only solution to the issues at hand but not necessarily so.
Since disagreements in relationships are very normal, one must not forget that each individual in the relationship is unique. As such, with ones own experiences, thoughts, feelings and needs, no doubt, there will be arguments. Not forgetting, in many scenarios of an argument, it is because each individual cares deeply for the other.
On that note however, disagreements do need to be dealt with appropriately. Stirring up a battle is never a healthy behaviour to maintain in relationships. Neither it's ever a good idea to be constantly contradictory, it will not help in any way positively.
There must be a compromise somewhere in the midst of it all for any relationship to grow healthy and balanced. Always try to make a conscious effort to listen to each others concerns on the issue discussed and ascertain each other that the concern is understood; after which the decision on the compromise can be discussed.
Finally, even though you will not always have a perfect compromise, but as long as both party can agree on the decision made then its evident there is hope for progress. Stay tuned for next discussion.
Have a joyous and healthy day.
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