After the upheaval resulting from the revelation of a spousal affair, your world may seem shattered into so many fragments that you may not even know which piece to pick up first.
Maybe you have a family to consider, children that could possible affected negatively by the cheating spouse's behaviour. The impact can really affect your life, home and the ability to function in the family. Obviously, you have your marriage to think about which is now in shreds. The struggle is now yours to over-come with the inner turmoil which is no doubt affecting your focus.
At this point, it is very important that you first focus on yourself. This does not mean everything else is excluded but that you are first priority and here is why. Everything that you are presently involved with depends on a crucial component and that is: a strong and whole you.
As you attempt to take this stance in your life, you may feel some guilt in an effort to rediscover yourself or a complete reinvention of who you are. Before your spouse's affair, you usually take care of everyone needs ahead of yours, so yes, you might feel selfish and it's normal to feel this way.
During this evolving process, its still uncertain how this will all play out at this time except for your commitment to your own needs, wants and values. Do not forget however, that this gift to yourself is also a great gift to others. If you have children, they will have a chance to observe how you handle a crisis of this magnitude and come out of it even stronger. If you have a job, you may well bring a fresh and new inspiration to the workplace environment.
Remember, this is not selfish because if you become sick, you take some rest along with medication and lots of fluid to maintain hydration. Therefore, this time you have taken out for your self-rediscovery is called, 'the healing process'. A time to heal, grow and sharpen the unique individual you really are.
Please join in the conversation and stay tuned for part (2).
Have a healthy and balanced day!!
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